You have dedicated most of your childhood to this. You have climbed every rung up the Allstar Cheerleading ladder to master every skill possible. You have done your best to surround yourself with amazing teammates, coaches and a community that supports you in everything you do. You have fought through injury, you have worked through lack of God given talent to master the skills that come easy for others. You have pushed through the mental challenges that tell your body there is no way on earth anyone should be able to do this, but you do it.
You have stared down fear, you perform in front of thousands of people with the bright lights blaring and nowhere to run. You go to practice when you want to quit and feel horrible. You have been the underdog. You have felt the intense pressure of being a National Champion and trying to keep that title. You have felt and pushed through the incredible pressure from being on top of the world, and tried to stay there. Knowing that if you can execute through the intense pressure of everyone gunning for you, it will create the perfect diamond. You have sacrificed parties, dances, Proms, free time, ridicule, all to be the best at what you do with your teammates.
You respect and admire the coaches that spend the majority of the time demanding excellence and screaming at you to get every ounce of effort and focus out of you. You hate them for it and love them all at the same time.You have been blessed to let your talents shine on that stage and you have reached the pinnacle of your craft. You have earned every right to jump on Twitter, FB, Insta or Snap and scream from the rooftop that you are the absolute best there is, but you don’t, because your parents and coaches have brought you up better than that.
You will reach a breaking point during all of this. After you have done all you can possibly do, there will be a time when you say to yourself, “There is absolutely no point to Allstar Cheerleading.” At about this time, I hope and pray with all my heart that you take a look around. I would also ask you to analyze some things. We know you are young and will make some mistakes, but I would ask you to think twice about your actions. Think about the power of social media. Think about the words you choose and the actions you take. When you hide behind that anonymous Twitter handle and spew hate and tear people down who have risen to the top of their craft. When you try to tear others down because you are tired and worn out from practice, school, other responsibilities. When you are frustrated that others are getting the attention after a tough loss.
While you have been so dialed in focusing on your craft, you may have lost sight of those around you, understandably so. I hope and pray that you notice the little Tiny and Mini that idolizes you. I hope you notice the admiration in their eyes staring up at you. I hope you notice after you complete that last pass. There is a Tiny and a Mini analyzing your every move and only one day hoping to duplicate your skill level. I hope you watch when they perfect that forward roll or cartwheel and they are so overcome with joy they stumble over themselves in excitement giving their coaches huge hugs. I only wish that you could see that after those littles come home from practice and competitions they get right back to work creating new routines using your name and the team you represent. When they practice along side you and go for their water break they are longing for you to say hi or give them a high five because to them, you are their biggest hero. I hope you respect that.
We all know you did not ask for this, but suspect somewhere along the line of your success there was someone you looked up to. Someone you admired and wanted to be like. Hopefully, they took you under their wing and gave you an encouraging smile or shout of encouragement. Your legacy means something whether you like it or not. An encouraging smile or taking a moment to watch that little team that is working so hard to be like you can move mountains.
At the end of the day, this is a very small world. You understand the bond and the legacy that Allstar Cheerleading represents better than anyone. You know that when the chips are down and you enter the real world outside of cheer, there is no one else you would rather surround yourself with than people who have went through the same challenges and triumphs as you. That could be the very person who you may or may not have been tearing down on #CheerTwitter.
You may not know it now, but the life lessons and skills you are learning that I have laid out in If you are in business…Never hire an Allstar Cheerleader mean nothing if you tarnish or don’t respect the legacy you leave. It means something…it means a lot. If you are not going to do it for the Tiny or Mini cheerleader I mentioned earlier, I understand. Maybe you won’t even consider it for your parents who have sacrificed an immense amount to give you these life skills, opportunities and experiences in life that you may not even recognize at this stage in your life. I certainly hope and pray that you do it for the person you are staring at in the mirror, because you deserve it, and the people you surround yourself with deserve it as well.
There is a circle of life that is Allstar Cheerleading. The circle will then extend into college or any other life path you choose in life. You will be amazing as you always have been. The learning curve may be longer, but you need to realize you built your craft over the course of many years. Life is the same way. The legacy you leave means everything to the future. Respect the honor of what you do by being the better person now. Continue to be amazing in everything you do, because that is what you know and that is what you were programmed to do.
14 thoughts on “Realizing there is absolutely no point to Allstar Cheerleading.”
I agree with everything you spoke about. I am so proud of you, I’m really glad to be your grandmother and to watch you succeed in all your endeavors. I love you.
Hi, I have absolutely no idea how the world of all star cheer works. Although my grandaughter is in her first year. If she has half the determination as the author in this article, I think the fact that she has lost both of her parents to addiction, and is being raised by her grandparents along with extended family, won’t be as much of an excuse to quit as It will be a reason to succeed! Thank you for being committed!
Wow I’m so sorry for your granddaughters loss She will find so much comfort in all star cheer the bonds these girls make are incredible not only that she will be pushed to her max and then some and she will see what success feels like she will learn to “lose” with grace and win with honor I was not a cheerleader but my daughter is 7 and in her 4th season of all star cheer she went from a big gym as a tiny to a small gym as a mini and youth 2 and now to one of the best gyms as a y3 she is pushed to the max but she is successful and talented and I love watching her on that mar she amazes me they all do I hope that your granddaughter all the best
Val, Thank you for sharing this touching and inspiring story. I wish you and your granddaughter the very best. She will be amazing. Thank you for taking the time to read and I am glad you enjoyed it!
So true, every word. My daughter is in her senior, and what will likely be her last, year of Allstar. She has gone through every emotion you describe and probably more — there were definitely times where she felt that the work was for naught. But there is a younger athlete from another gym that idolizes my daughter and follows her team. She seeks out my daughter at competitions and is so enamored that her mom has to come up and ask if my daughter would mind taking a picture with her, because the little girl is too shy. My daughter has been stopped in airports, hotels, restaurants all by younger athletes who know these cheerleaders, their music, their routines, and who think the world of them regardless of what kind of day their team had on the mat. Someone is always watching, so be someone worthy of being watched. Set the good example even when it’s the very last thing that you want to do that day. Allstar cheer is an amazing sport that teaches much more than what you see on the mat. The lessons in discipline, courage, integrity and perseverance, are ones that will serve every athlete in every phase of their lives.
Such a great story! Thank you for sharing!
It’s an amazing time for Youth Sports. So glad your daughter is such a good role model. It speaks volumes!
You’re title was a little misleading and I was actually a little upset by it at first. I was glad I took the time to read it. While one day my daughter will no longer be an Allstar cheerleader, I believe she will be a better person because of it. She is learning so many things – hard work, team work, how to win gracefully, how to lose gracefully, sacrifice, setting goals, achieving goals, dealing with people of all personalities, balance between school and her sport and so many other things we haven’t even discovered yet. While I can see all of these things now, I hope one day she too will realize what Allstar cheerleading has done for her.
Sorry for the misleading title. It is kind of my style of writing. I am glad you gave the article a shot and enjoyed it. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and perspective on your daughter, and I wish her the best in the future!
Great Blog! Spot on along with the many lessons learned through all of the years of hard work.
My oldest daughter began all-star cheerleading in the sixth grade, her little sister in third…they excelled at every thing they tried, they watched hours of videos of older teams and memorized their routines and did them over and over again in our family room! Now my oldest daughter, has graduated with her masters from the University of Kentucky and was talented enough and fortunate enough to cheer there all four years! The greatest cheerleading program in the country! Hard work and perseverance do pay off! Great life lessons and work ethic were gained out on the mat! Love your article!
Thank you for your kind words. Wow, that is an incredible story! We have a ton of Ladies and Gents at our gym that one day dream of being a UK cheerleader. We have a few coaches that cheered at UK. It has quite the legacy! You must be so proud!
This is the best written article ever and it speaks the truth through and through! My daughter, now 21 went on to cheer in high school then college after seven years of all star cheer and between our time, money, dedication to a team she has life long memories, skills and friends.
Signed a very supportive ‘cheer parent’!